Autoimmune Disorder

This morning I kept on thinking about the many things we say to ourselves that we will find deeply offensive if someone else say them to or about us.

"I'm dumb"

"I can't focus"

"I always mess everything up"

"I'm fat (or skinny) and look disgusting"

"I am a terrible parent"

"My mind is messed up"

"I can't succeed"

At some point in our lives, almost all of us have said these things to ourselves, either in our heads or out loud. We hold ourselves to ridiculously high standards than we do others. We forgive others but won't forgive ourselves.

Trash-talking yourself isn't at all attractive. It is self abuse. Many are so used to pain and others hurting them that when they get a respite because they removed themselves from a bad situation they continue with the cycle of abuse because all they know and understand is pain. The difference this time is, they are the ones hurting themselves through their words and limiting beliefs.

If this is you, please STOP IT NOW. Speak kindly about yourself and to yourself irrespective of how you feel. Make bold affirmations. You don't counter negative thoughts with positive thoughts. You only banish negative thoughts with positive bold loudly spoken words.

Forgive yourself. Being super critical of yourself has no value. Stop comparing yourself with others. It's never helpful. It robs you of joy.

Be kind to yourself. Stop the pity party. Stop being cruel with the words you speak to yourself because you're judging yourself before anyone else get the chance to. You reckon it'll be better and less hurtful when people eventually do. No it won't be. Just STOP.

Make a commitment to loving and honouring the person you see when you stand before a mirror. That human have come a long way and though still a work in progress, s/he is deserving of only love and affirmation.

Will you commit to that starting today? You are worth it.