Delayed or Denied?

If you often feel burdened by regret or overwhelmed by the idea that you’ve missed out on life, this is for you.

Your life is like a song being performed before a grand audience. You’re the one performing. And even when you miss a beat, a lyric, or your step, God, the grand conductor and concert director, continues to play the beat and guide the orchestra. If He hasn’t stopped giving signals or showing His hands here and there, it’s because your song still carries a beautiful tune in His ears.

You may think you’ve lost something or missed an opportunity. But stop and notice what you’ve gained. You’ve gained experience. You’ve gained hindsight. You’ve learned how not to do things. You’ve picked up valuable life lessons, maybe even tangible things too. Minus one, plus one, and you’re back to balance. It’s not all losses.

The frustration often comes from expecting life to be a straight line of wins. But real life doesn’t work like that. We win some, we lose some. We fall, then rise. Victory here, defeat there. Nothing stays constant forever. You feel bad right now but that feeling isn’t the full truth. Feelings shift. They’re loud, but not always accurate.

Gratitude for what’s going well can shift your state fast. Imagine you’re heading to a party. You’ve glammed up, you’re excited. Then your car breaks down. You fix it. You’re back on the road. Next, you miss your turn. Your GPS recalibrates, adds 30 minutes to your trip. You already feel late. Still, you keep going.

When you finally arrive, you realise the party hasn’t started fully. Food hasn’t been served yet. You get your jollof and small chops. You dance. You see your friends. You laugh. You forget how stressful the journey was. This is how life works.

God holds the party in place for you. Your GPS (grace positioning system) will always recalibrate. You’ll still get to where you’re meant to be. Remind yourself, your jollof is still ahead. Your party isn’t over. You’re not late, you’re just en route.

God is holding it all together for you. Yes, it will take time. But practising gratitude helps. It calms your mind. It helps you recover from the grief of loss. While you’re still on the road, sing songs of worship. Be thankful for what’s going right. Write things down. Remind yourself, you’re not missing out.

We’re all where we should be.

You’re still on time.